Texas couples navigating a divorce might be interested in a recent news story about the positive effects of good communication. Opening the lines of communication while going through the dissolution process can be a healthy and effective way to deal with all the challenges a divorce can bring. Issues in communicating with partners rank as a top cause in the failure of a marriage in this country, so it makes sense that couples continue to experience difficulties in communication even after the divorce is finalized.
Being divorced obviously does not automatically stop all contact with an ex-spouse, especially when children are involved. This is why positive and open communication is so important. Divorce can bring bitter feelings against each other and an inability to communicate may cause the relationship to deteriorate even further.
Poor communication can make life difficult for everyone and can even affect any children from the marriage. Courtesy can go far when having to deal with an ex-spouse. Relationship dynamics may change drastically after a divorce but putting forth the effort to be cordial and thinking before speaking may smooth any difficulties down the road.
Avoid disclosing any information that may be used against you in the future. Any delicate information or anything that may cast you in a poor light may be best to avoid. Keeping things professional can help former couples from sending mixed messages to each other. Sharing any personal information or using endearments might be inappropriate and could strain some relationships even further.
Also, avoiding the blame game is an important part of the communication process. Placing blame on the other party can make it seem as if they are being attacked. If the other party becomes defensive, it works to nullify any previous positive progress. Texas couples considering or embarking on a divorce may benefit by attempting to maintain open and positive communication with each other and any children involved. Doing so will likely ease the stress and emotional pain that divorce can bring.
Source: Santa Monica Mirror, "Communicating With Your Ex After Divorce," Andra Brosh and Allison Pescosolido, March 25, 2012